I am sorry for the senseless banter that is about to follow, but I have to put this down. I know that by the time this is actually posted it will be more than a week since my sister's marriage, but I promise to myself that there will be no changes in the original version. This will be posted as it is being written now.
It feels kind of wierd after your sister's marriage. On one hand, you are happy that she is beginning a new life together with some one she loves, someone who cares about her and will love her for the rest of his life, and on the other hand you are sad to see a part of you leave for ever. I know it is not that she will stop being your sister, but you will obviously never have the kind of time to spend together that you had before, nor will you come first in her life.
The strange thing is, while we all talk about the feeling of the girl's parents, there is little or no thought given to those of her siblings, specially her brothers. It seems that we brothers are assumed to be detatched from our sisters, but believe me, it is not the case.
We may not get a chance to express our anguish or to mourne our loss, but the feeling is still there - may be not for all to see. I know, because I have felt that way twice.
And still, I am happy because my sister is, and because she is stepping into a new dimension with the man she loves. I just hope and pray that their ride is a happy one :).
This is Hashir, signing off
Over and out
3 comments:
I can relate to this post so very much.....lovely...
Thanks Alok :)
hmmm....the feeling of loss, emptiness, will be there. Love/ Marriage does bring change to life. In most cases, the feeling is mutual. Some express most do not, I have observed. When one has a 'life-partner', what else does life need....!
Its better to watch them being independent than being dependent..\
Most after first few years, do come back to siblings, to friends. Why do they come back..., many reasons, because they feel you can support them, in times of their need. All one can do is be there, in their hour of need.
What else are friends/ siblings for :)
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